xoSelf (short for Love Yourself)) is a weekly advice series where women can anonymously seek advice on topics about relationships, work, finding themselves or life challenges. xoSelf is responded to by educator & life coach Dr. Walter Hidalgo.
Dear xoSelf: My boyfriend is super supportive of me and everything that I want to become. However, I told him that I wanted to be an Influencer, and he told me that for him, I’m pretty enough but not for social media. He said that I’m not the type that will make a lot of money. I’m curvy, boyish, with bad skin. I told him there are plenty of plus size influencers with all styles, but he said they have enough money for nice clothes, photographers, and the lifestyle to be interesting. I am passionate about doing this, but I feel discouraged by what he says. I know I should ignore him, but is he right? Am I not good enough?
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Dr. Walter Hidalgo is an educator and coach. He has a master’s of arts in Church History and Sociology from Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University and a doctorate from New York Theological Seminary where his focus was on the intersectionality between Hip-hop culture and socio-spiritual movements. He has taught in universities, high schools, prisons, not-for-profit organizations, and faith-based institutions from all over the world. And finally, he is the author of the critically acclaimed book, “Beyond the Four Walls: The Rising Ministry and Spirituality of Hip-hop” where he has worked with numerous Hip-hop artists, educators, and youth from all over the world to create spaces of fun and empowerment.