We are so excited to partner with Dr. Walter Hidalgo with a goal of being more socially aware. Here, he answers your questions and shares advice on life and wellness while living in a social media-driven world.
DEAR THE VIRGO GIRL,
I have a large following on Instagram. I admit I show provocative pictures and get comments from men all the time wanting to be with me, because of it. I recently got into a new relationship (3 months) with a guy who I met in my DM. We talked a little over a year before we decided to make it official, but now he has a problem with my page even though that is how we met. He says that I have to choose between my page or him, what should I do? Oh, right now I don’t make much money from my Instagram page but I know the money is coming soon, I get contacted often regarding opportunities it’s only a matter of time before they are paying.
Advice from Dr. Walter Hidalgo: This is a challenging thing because it puts you in a fork in the road. On one side it sounds like you want to commit to a relationship despite the challenges that come with your work. The other road is your commitment to your career/dream(s) which, what it sounds like to me, is something you are willing to commit wholeheartedly. The upside to this situation is that your partner is aware of your work so it should not be a surprise to him. However, looking at it from his perspective, it seems that he is uncomfortable with your line of work and as a result challenges his emotions, character, and attributes as a man to have you be “the only one.” It’s difficult to give you one concrete way to approach this when you already know that you ultimately have to make a decision and whatever decision that is will hurt you.
The question I have for you is…..What is more important to you? Some things to consider. 1) If you choose your partner over your career can you live with that? Can you do something else or something similar to it (in accordance to his demands and needs)? 2) If you choose your career are you okay with losing this person? Is it worth it? Is HE worth it? Because there are men who can support you in what you do without feeling insecure but are those men like this one? If it was up to me, I would choose my career over my relationship because that is how I feel complete as a person…however, that may not be the case for you. Again, what is more, important to you?
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