Behind every successful man is a strong and successful woman. Here’s how Ben Affleck leads and still supports J.Lo to make us say #RelationshipGoals.
We love seeing couples in love and winning together—something Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez have had years to perfect.
With the star-studded couple starting their relationship in 2002, unfortunately splitting up, but reuniting in 2021 before getting married in 2022, Ben and J.Lo have seen just about all there is to see in a growing relationship between two successful people.
That includes the ups and downs: While paparazzi may have caught the couple in what appeared to be a tense moment, we believe Ben and Jen have figured out how to navigate the demands of Hollywood while still protecting their relationship and elevating together.
This starts with a man who is strong and capable of leading as a husband—and when you have a strong woman for a wife, there’s a few things men can learn from Ben, as well as other successful couples with powerful wives, like Barack and Michelle Obama or Jay-Z and Beyoncé. Let’s dive in!
1. Ask your partner intentional questions
To know your partner is to understand them on a deeper level. As their spouse, you get to see them as they are in front of strangers, family, and friends, as well as see them through the eyes of your personal relationship.
Ben understands that how he sees Jen isn’t the same as how the world sees her, as he once said, “I have seen firsthand the difference representation makes because I have seen, over and over and over and over, women of color approach Jennifer and tell her what her example as a strong woman and a woman succeeding.”
The best way to lead is to understand your partner like this so you can nurture that personal relationship, and asking the right questions is where you start.
Think about your partner’s interests, desires, and goals and ask them questions like:
- What about that interest inspires you?
- When do you want to make that goal a reality?
- How can I help you achieve your desires?
2. Show grace where needed
We’re all only human—and we deserve grace when we fall short or make a mistake. As the leader in your relationship, you set the example of how to be understanding, forgiving, and showing mercy when your partner needs it most.
Back in 2002 when Ben and Jen first broke up, Jennifer said it was because of the tabloids that constantly ran rumors about their relationship. “I think it absolutely contributed to the demise of our relationship and the love that we had,” she said in 2019. “There was so much judgment and pressure and scrutiny and opinions and it was just a really, really hard thing to deal with.”
And yet Ben understood her fears and showed grace by taking her concerns seriously. After the couple began dating again in early 2021, Ben now makes it a priority to protect the privacy of his relationship with Jennifer by keeping her safe from paparazzi or overeager fans as often as possible.
3. Work together and be their biggest cheerleader
We may not all be Hollywood celebrities like Ben and Jen who co-star in movies like Gigli together, but the benefit of working together and supporting your spouse pays off the same.
Over the years, Ben has made it a point to champion J.Lo in all her projects, whether it be saying that his future wife had an amazing work ethic when striving to reach her goals, or that she deserved to be nominated for an Oscar for her role in her film Hustlers.
When you show your partner you care about their goals and even work alongside them to make them happen, you are leading the relationship to success so you both win.
How to manifest a powerful relationship
Every relationship has the potential to build into something beautiful—and with a strong man leading his strong wife, you can be a power couple like J.Lo and Ben, too!
From supporting your partner to working with them to build a legacy for you both to share, manifesting is always the first step to a successful plan.
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