xoSelf (short for Love Yourself)) is a weekly advice series where women can anonymously seek advice on topics about relationships, work, finding themselves or life challenges. xoSelf is responded to by educator & life coach Dr. Walter Hidalgo.
Dear xoSelf: My fiance said that I need to lose fifty pounds before our wedding next year or he will cancel it. I would like to lose a few pounds but not fifty and I feel that I should leave him because he is demanding something of me that I don’t agree with. Should I leave my fiance or lose weight?
Answer:
Relationships will constantly be tested. How you handle them will determine the longevity of your relationship. If this is something you both want (not what the other person wants) then each of you will support each other. If it’s happening only on a unilateral level then challenges will arise. Afterall, there is no “I” in team!
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Dr. Walter Hidalgo is an educator and coach. He has a master’s of arts in Church History and Sociology from Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University and a doctorate from New York Theological Seminary where his focus was on the intersectionality between Hip-hop culture and socio-spiritual movements. He has taught in universities, high schools, prisons, not-for-profit organizations, and faith-based institutions from all over the world. And finally, he is the author of the critically acclaimed book, “Beyond the Four Walls: The Rising Ministry and Spirituality of Hip-hop” where he has worked with numerous Hip-hop artists, educators, and youth from all over the world to create spaces of fun and empowerment.