xoSelf (short for Love Yourself)) is a weekly advice series where women can anonymously seek advice on topics about relationships, work, finding themselves or life challenges. xoSelf is responded to by educator & life coach Dr. Walter Hidalgo.
Dear xoSelf: I am in a same sex marriage and my wife is super jealous of my career. I run a sports YouTube channel and blog, so I’m constantly around men who do try and flirt with me. I chalk it up as part of the business and it’s no sweat to me as long as they are respectful. She is super frustrated and annoyed by it. I told her I think she is being an insecure partner. Is there anything I can do to make her feel more secure?
Answer: Have you ever considered inviting her to see you in action? In other words, invite her to one of your work sites so she can get to know you better. Seeing you do what you love to do has the potential to strengthen your relationship because your partner gets to see you at your most optimal. This includes having her see you troubleshoot uncomfortable situations at the workplace as a sign of respect, loyalty and love that you have for her!
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Dr. Walter Hidalgo is an educator and coach. He has a master’s of arts in Church History and Sociology from Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University and a doctorate from New York Theological Seminary where his focus was on the intersectionality between Hip-hop culture and socio-spiritual movements. He has taught in universities, high schools, prisons, not-for-profit organizations, and faith-basedinstitutions from all over the world. And finally, he is the author of the critically acclaimed book, “Beyond the Four Walls: The Rising Ministry and Spirituality of Hip-hop” where he
has worked with numerous Hip-hop artists, educators, and youth from all over the world to create spaces of fun and empowerment.